Calm The Frizz

Curly, kinky, tightly coiled or just simply textured hair is problematic for some- frizz, frizz and more frizz. What is the key element of frizz-dehydration.  Curly, kinky and similar hair types frizz because it lacks moisture. Improper treatment of textured hair is another key element of frizz.

To tame frizzy hair, you want to look for products that are all natural or at least natural based. You want products that are moisturizing in addition to soothing or calming to your cuticle. 

Choosing the right shampoo

Choosing the right shampoo is the perfect place to start for frizz free hair.  Look for shampoos that do not contain any sulfates. Sulfates (foaming agent) dry the hair out!

Are you using the right towel

How you dry your hair is as important as choosing the right shampoo. I recommend my favorite (and only) *towel made specifically for hair. The towel is made of Aquitex, an innovative fabric woven from ultra-fine microfibers to create a lightweight material that dries hair without frizzing. This is a healthier way to dry your hair which makes this towel ”a must have”. 

Frizz free

To maintain your textured hair frizz free, use products that smooth and seal the cuticle.  I recommend Miss Jessies products. What I love about the products is its’ ability to hold your natural curl pattern in tact for manageable soft curls. The products also extends your natural curl pattern to its’ maximum length- you know how we love hair long! I also love the website. It is filled with a wealth of information about the products including before and after pictures.

Shopping

Shampoo- Try Whole Food Markets or health food store

Hair Towel- The Studio 718-221-5581 or Oh My Heavenly Hair Boutique 609-396-4247

Maintenance- Miss Jessies Products-missjessies.com

Enjoy, dhb.  

I Hate My Hair- No, you should be happy you have hair!

“God, I hate my hair, I am so sick of this mess”- all while pulling, yanking, brushing too severely and continuing a host of other physical abuse. Could it be that you are not treating your hair properly, so in return, it does not look the way you would like it to look.  So now, because you’re having problems, you label your hair in the worst way-you physically and mentally abuse it. This has got to stop if you want to have hair. And, certainly if you want healthy, beautiful hair.

Talking badly about your hair is my personal pet peeve- when you talk badly about your hair, I believe you are sending the wrong message to your hair and  to your psyche. Self love in all forms for every part of you is important. That is what nurturing is all about. Take a moment and put yourself in your hairs’ place. Each and every day (not everyone but most) you complain about your hair. No thanks to your hair for providing you with beauty, coverage and sexiness. No thanks for remaining on your head opposed to the floor. No thanks for anything. What would you do if you were hair? At some point you would want to leave. But, yet and still, for the most part, your hair hangs tight- taking the verbal and some times physical abuse. If I were hair I would leave, I would certainly go where I was wanted (hair heaven) and cease to exist on your head. Think about that the next time you complain about your hair. dhb.

Ode to my MOM

My MOM…..

is beautiful
loves me
is always there for me
is the best
is my biggest champion, along with my girls who cheer me on all the time
hands out my postcards?

The day before Memorial Day- I’m talking to my mom on the phone about what time to meet at BAM (Brooklyn Academy of Music- Dance Africa Festival). This is a family ritual where everyone gets involved to hand out Red C.A.C. Studio postcards. I am tired as usual. I’m suppose to meet mom around 12:00 noon. As noon approaches, I realize I’m not going to make our noon handing out the postcards appointment so I call her.  Mom, “I’m not going to make it for noon, I will call you when I am leaving”. Mom replies ” I will see you out there”.

I must give you a visual of my mom- mom is a women of a certain age. She is fly and sassy. She has the tenacity of Malcom X- she will get it done “By Any Means Necessary” and the fierceness of and even resembles Patti La Belle. Got the picture!

I always leave postcards at mom’s house because we do street Fair’s all the time. Mom gets herself together and heads out on her lone mission of handing out postcards. In fact, she handed out all the postcards she took out with her- and it was a hot day. Mom carries them with her as she rides the train going to work, walking down the street, or with her as she runs her many errands over the course of her day. Imagine that!

I did meet up with her later on that day. I was tired from working on the new Studio website, recovering from my long day at work and the million other things I do over the course of my day.  Believe it or not- mom hung tough. She continued to walk with us as we handed out more postcards. For my mom, it is absolutely believable. Here’s the thing, everyone who knows my mom knows that this is not unusual for my mom. My mom is behind me 100%.

As my day winds down, it hit me- wow, my mom is awesome. She’s out there handing out postcards for her daughter by herself and enjoying it. I am blessed. Thank you mom. I love you so very much. Not just because you are the postcard diva, but because I know you love me and I feel it. Thank you mom. Thank you God for giving me my mom I am truly blessed.

So, if you see this short Patti LaBell looking, Malcolm X thinking lady strutting her stuff with postcards in her hand, please take one and wish her well. And, whatever you do don’t say anything off color because she will sass you right back. She’s my mom supporting her daughter and having fun.

Help me reach my goal “One Million Strong”- The Fabulous P.C. L. Family

Join me as I go forth calling on one million strong. One million strong that want a new leaf on life and a new way to think about their hair.

Join us in celebration of beautiful, healthy hair. Join us as we declare a healthy body. Join us as we gain a new respect for our very special selves. Join us as we validate that loving yourself could never be wrong.

Join me as I ask you to tell your friends, family members, loved ones, Pastor’s, doctors, classmates, co-workers and others to join The Fabulous P.C.L. (Pray, Cherish Your Body, Love Your Hair) Family. Share this blog with others so we may grow by leaps and bounds. Help me make this a reality. Join now, pass it along, one million strong!

To join the movement, please leave a comment and your name. Till soon,dhb.

Stop Tryin’ To Act Brand New- you are not trying to touch my hair are you?

Head snaps to the side, eye squinted and blaring as your hand goes up to grab the hand that’s touching your hair.  Remember back in the day, if you dare extend your hand to touch another persons hair unsolicited-you would surely pull back a nub in the mist of being “cursed out”.  So please, “Stop Trying to Act Brand New (nina)- you know better! Ask first- excuse me, your hair is so…. may I touch it? As directed, if directed you may proceed.

*only in this era would I have to write such a thing, dhb.